1. Self-Awareness

1.3.1 Self-Assurance

Self-Assurance and Presence

Self-assurance is made up of self-confidence and self-esteem. All are similar, but with crucial differences. You can be very confident in your skills and in certain areas of your life, while still suffering from low self-worth.


Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.”    Maxwell Maltz

Self-esteem is about how you feel about yourself and value your worth. It helps establish how you think, feel, and act. People with self-esteem also do not feel the need to accumulate accolades or material possessions. They are content with knowing their value and their worth outside of their self-confidence.

Surrounding yourself with people who are extremely positive helps build your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Your self-esteem gives you the push you need to learn more, seek new opportunities and network with others.

Want to increase your self-esteem? Here are things to do daily:

  1. Improve your self-talk. Start your day with positive affirmations and learn to refocus your thoughts to something constructive.
  2. Surround yourself with positive people. Don’t let negative people control the way you think about your life or your business. Remember, every negative person has a problem for every solution. Move on!
  3. Start a journal. Start a journal to share your thoughts and challenges. Also be sure to focus on writing about ways that you have been succeeding. When you are having a down day, go back to those entries and repeat the same habits of that day.
  4. Get over your perfectionism. Perfectionism stops us from moving forward and completing projects. It paralyzes us because we are so afraid of not being able to live up to a high standard. Instead, understand that there is no such thing as perfect and learn to know when something is good enough.
  5. Handle mistakes and failures in a more positive way. I like to use this example a lot when I talk about setting goals and it’s using a GPS. Say you’re driving and you take a wrong turn. Your GPS doesn’t say “you’re a loser, go home.” It re-calculates and gets you back on track. When you take a wrong turn in life or in your business, re-calculate.
  6. Love others. When you spend time being more kind and loving to others, you start to learn to treat yourself a little kinder too. Be encouraging to others, do a good deed or even just be a great listener to someone.
  7. Build your self-confidence. When you begin building your confidence in multiple areas you start to see yourself as a more successful person. Becoming confident in your skills allows you to continue to see your value as a person and build your self-worth.
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