Bleugh! Valentine's Day- schmalentine's day. Are you up to your eyeballs is smug couples and unashamed commercialism? Or are you a hopeless romantic who pulls out all the stops to proclaim your love for all to hear?
Either way, the most important person to love (for 365 days of the year) is YOU.
Learn to Love Yourself
If the thought of loving yourself makes you uncomfortable, you are not alone. Many people battle to love themselves, and yet, as counsellor Jane Travis points out, “The relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship.”
Let’s Clarify Self-Love
Read any self-help article or social media post, and sooner or later you will come across a hot topic at the moment – narcissism. Let’s get this straight – loving yourself is completely different to being selfish, or arrogant, or being a narcissist (/ˈnɑːsɪsɪst/ noun: a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.)
Also popular online is the obsession with endless bubble baths, expensive coffees, and “me-time” in order to show yourself some love.
However, neither of these is self-love. Rather, loving yourself means accepting who you are and knowing your own worth. You need to take a good look at your choices and thought-patterns; and where necessary, make new decisions and paths to reflect your self-worth. When you respect and value yourself, you won’t accept being treated any way less than you deserve…. and that includes how you treat yourself. That may include taking some “me-time” to pamper yourself; but it also involves treating yourself with respect by putting in the effort needed to move you closer to the success you deserve.
Reasons Why Loving Yourself is Essential
According to Psychology Today, “No one is ever going to love you more than you love yourself. In other words, until you're 100 percent into YOU, no one else will be.” Self-love improves your physical, psychological, and emotional state.
When you love who you are, you accept who you are – the good, the bad, and the ugly. You can build on your strengths, and work to improve areas of weakness.
Self-love gives you confidence and approval. From within. No-one else is needed. (In an ironic twist, that confidence and approval often attracts others to you.)
Learning to love yourself can be hard, but here’s a self-love duck to help you out!
Download your copy of self-love worksheets HERE.
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