Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk

Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk

You have heard the expression countless times before, but did you know that there is a Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk Day? Yes, really! The idiom was first used by British writer James Howell in 1659. The main lesson of Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk Day is to remind us that the past has already happened and cannot be changed. Leave your past behind, and rather focus on positively moving forward.

Your Past Does Not Equal Your Future Unless You Choose To Live There 

Tony Robbins stated the above heading, and it is so true. We have all experienced the burden of mulling over negative past events, trying to make sense of everything. What we are really doing though, is flooding our minds with negativity, making clarity and perspective difficult, if not impossible.

Don’t you think that that energy would be better spent on what’s happening at the moment and on the future you want to create?

The truth is that to create the life you really want, you need to first set yourself free from your past. It is a conscious decision you need to make to forgive and leave the past behind you. It isn’t always easy, but if you let yourself dwell in the past and be consumed by what has already happened, then you don’t give yourself the chance to move on.

Letting Go of The Past

Moving on from your past does not mean denying your past. Acknowledge what happened (with the help of a counsellor if the event is too traumatic). Accept that no matter how much you may wish to turn back time, what’s done is done and cannot be changed. All we can change is how we react to and view it now.

If possible, turn your past into a learning experience. Top it off by being grateful for the valuable lesson learned.

Sometimes, despite struggling to make sense of things, we cannot find a life lesson in negative past experiences. We simply do not know the full story or the reasoning behind them. If that is the case, have faith that the choices or mistakes you made were made for a reason. Forgive yourself and accept where you are now.

Forgive the others. It will do you more good than it will do them.

New doors open when you let go and accept your circumstances and situations for what they are.

Your past has moulded you into who you are today. But avoid becoming cynical or negative in your self-talk – “Nobody can be trusted”, “Everything I touch turns to sh!t”.  Break the habit of a negative or wandering mind. Thoughts lead to emotions which then grow. The less you think about something, the less power those thoughts have over you.

Moving Forward

Everything that has happened in your past is a preparation for your future. Forgiving your past and moving forward is one of the best ways you can love yourself. You will be wiser, stronger, and more prepared for whatever is coming your way.


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The top pupil in a school or class.”

Comments ( 2 )


    This was really nice. It taught me to be able to focus on my future and leave the past behind because it is futile to dwell in the past. Making your past a lesson

    • Thanks for sharing your positive comment, Zinhle. Life is so short – focus on the future while remembering to savour every moment of your journey.

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